Couples Counseling Therapy Boulder, CO
At the core of every human heart is the longing to be seen and loved by others. When relationships are struggling in life, the rest of life struggles too.
Making the decision to seek counseling in a relationship can be difficult, but is actually a very hopeful sign. No matter how hopeless you feel at the moment, things can absolutely improve in any relationship.
Getting help and learning about the nuances of communication and relationship skills can significantly revitalize any relationship. Seeking help only means that you are ready and willing to grow together. Coming from an attachment and trauma-informed lens, we will work together to strengthen your relationships, heal from broken ones, and find restoration and hope while navigating relational waters.
Reach out today and we will get started right away.
If You’re Seeking Couples Therapy, You Might Be Thinking…
- I am so deeply resentful or frustrated with my partner. I can’t imagine a world where that would ever be better.
- I wish my partner and I could just view money and finances the same way. I’m so tired of fighting about money.
- Something has changed in our relationship. I miss the way things were at the beginning.
- Parenting/our kids don’t leave any time for our relationship. We don’t ever have time to prioritize each other and we’re just moving farther and farther apart.
- My partner’s (or my own) infidelity is something that I just can’t get over. I don’t know that I will ever be able to trust them again.
- I miss the fire in our relationship. Our sex life is definitely not what I want it or need it to be.
Therapy Can Help!
Those points above are just some of the common things I hear from couples coming to relationship therapy for the first time. Each relationship is unique, and you may identify strongly with one of those thoughts mentioned above, or maybe you and your partner have your own reasons for seeking therapy.
When working with couples, I draw extensively from the well-established theories of attachment (our style of relating to others which is developed in early childhood.)
I also utilize techniques that invite the awareness of the present moment and the patterns that arise between people.
By patiently and gently studying what occurs during a session between you and your partner or friend, reactions and patterns that once seemed unmanageable give way to authentic intimacy and skillful relationship.
Time after time, I’ve seen with my patients that even the most frustrating and painful relationship challenges can be dissolved and the underlying love and commitment can be rediscovered.
What Does Couples Therapy Look Like?
Relationship therapy is not just for married couples. Many relationships can benefit from the external insight and compassion of a therapist, including:
- Marriages
- Partners/ committed romantic couples
- Parent/adult child relationships
- Friendships
- Families
In therapy, we address:
- Attachment Trauma
- Affairs/infidelity
- Communication styles
- Parenting skills
- Sex and intimacy
- Addiction
- Conflict resolution
I specialize in:
- Trauma-informed therapy
- The Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT)
- Attachment Styles
- Internal Family Systems
- Mindfulness-Based Psychotherapy
Your questions answered
Common questions
What if my partner isn’t willing to come to therapy?
There is definitely a certain amount of work we can do in individual therapy to boost your communication skills, work through personal trauma, and provide you with coping tools for presenting problems on your end. This is a great place to start if your partner isn’t ready for therapy yet.
How do I know we will be a good fit with a therapist?
I offer a free consultation so we can meet before any financial investment is made on your end. A therapist needs to be someone you can trust, someone you and your partner feel you can open up to. We can usually get a pretty good feel in a consultation if it’s going to be a good fit. My desire is for your relationship to be successful, so I am happy to point you to other referrals I trust if we agree it won’t be a beneficial connection.
How much does therapy cost?
It’s important to me that therapy is accessible to anyone who needs it. My patients pay a cash rate, and while I do not currently accept insurance, I do offer a sliding scale for patients that need it.